What I am about to tell you is something that made me laugh so hard but also made me stop to think back at situations I've been in over the past few years and shake my head at myself. It has a funny twist to it though so if you're not laughing then it’s probably because you know you have been in that similar situation or are in it right now but honestly forget it, move and learn from your mistakes.
I'm not sure if I've mentioned this before but you should know that my pastor is a very funny man. As anointed as he is, the way he preaches about issues that most young people deal with is pretty amazing. I mean he's young and relatable but there is a way he can talk about an issue and make you think about it from the depth of your soul. Almost everything I'm going to say about this pajamas issue I heard in church today and I honestly just wanted to share with you because I know it will bless you.
So most people have pajamas, if not the traditional one that comes as a two piece, you have something cute, something pretty or some of us have those big shirts that someone gave you at a party and you would not be caught in outside your house or rather old clothes that have now been turned into sleeping wear. The point is no one wears their pajamas out right? I mean no matter how cute it is, it’s what you wear at home because it lets you be free to do what you want, it’s comfortable, and most times the reason you don’t wear it out is not because of what it looks like but because its purpose is to be worn at home. Now look at the above descriptions, do you see that Pajamas and “friends”/ side chick have similar characteristics. “Friends” refer to those friendships that have comma; you just know something isn’t right.
There are just some situations that we ladies get ourselves into that qualifies us for pajamas status. If a guy tells you let us keep this relationship between us then please please please know that it is about to become a fishy situation. Except he is a wanted man and the FBI, CIA and the whole of America is looking for him, so you telling anyone might compromise him in which case, you should be packing your load and running far away from him, then know that you’re slowing aiming for pajamas land. Most popular line used is “It's not that I don’t want people to know, it’s just that I don’t want people in my business. Now why is it a bad thing for people to be in your business if they will be happy for you, abi when people get a new job, don’t they go around telling people. Everyone wants people to share in their happiness so if he’s not sharing you as a source of happiness then you know what it is. Like how can a guy tell you not to tell your friends you’re seeing each other though? You should at least tell your friends and those people who are important to you and make sure he is doing the same as well. Don’t get me wrong, I'm not saying to tell EVERYONE though, I mean honestly I think most people are sick of seeing certain people's relationship changes on their facebook newsfeed because today it is complicated, tomorrow it is single and so on. Now if you can't decide what status your relationship is, that's your business and we pray you figure it out but honestly please stop entertaining us. Notice that you only wear your pajamas at home, you don't go around showing off your pajamas to anyone and so do men, they keep their “friends/side chicks at home. You don’t go places together and even if you’re going to the movies, it’s either a theater that is far from his house or it’ll be the 2pm showing because no one will be there and no one wants to be seen in their pajamas.
One thing I have never understood is why people are afraid to have “The Talk”. What is wrong with asking what you are now and where you’re going? If there is no definition to your relationship and all you do is cook and watch movies at his or your house, then kai your pajamas status is wayyy high in the sky. Add the fact that you might be having sex smh; just bring yourself back to earth. If you ask the “What are we” question and you get “You know, we are cool and everything, good friends” please nod, smile and know that that’s what you’ll always be, friends. I mean when you come to the understanding that you’re a pajamas I’ll assume that you will what? Pack your load and go. There has to be a definition, if you’re just friends then be friends, in fact Google what a new friend is and act accordingly. What people don’t realize is that there are different levels of friendship. Think about it, if you have a best friend the things you could do for your bff after knowing them for a year is totally different from what you did when you’d only known them a month so why would you be deceived into thinking you’re just friends with someone who constantly needs your attention, body and emotions only to throw it back in your face and say “I thought we talked about it and we understood we were just friends. And something most people don’t admit is that it is hard being friends with someone you’re emotionally attached to and there is nothing wrong with saying no I don’t want to be your friend, at least I don’t think so.
I think most people have been in this situation, maybe even more than once or know someone who has. It is time to stop being a pajamas and start being someone’s Christmas dress. Do you know how special someone’s Christmas dress/outfit is to them or maybe even the dress they plan on wearing on their birthday? They want to look the best, outshine everyone with that one dress so why not aim for that instead of the mere pajamas that gets tossed in the drawer and not hung with a plastic bag to protect it. Everyone has potential to be a pajamas, I mean the cutest most successful girl can be someone’s side chick so don’t think something about you sets you apart, just be discerning enough where if there ever was a chance that you’re about to be one you can easily remove yourself before it happens. The moral lesson here is stop being someone’s pajamas, start being someone’s Christmas dress.
Be blessed. :)
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